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Today, I told my mom I am bulimic and have been for a few years and that I need help. She responded by saying “Well that’s clearly not working for you. Why don’t you try anorexia.” She then patted me on my head, smiled, and walked away. FML
Wow. I can’t even begin to understand what would posess someone to say that. I hope the bitch falls face-first into a woodchipper.
April 22, 2009 at 12:17 pm |
Hi:
I lost my daughter Heidi Lynne Haugen 8 yrs ago after a 15 yr battle, only to be overmedicated by psychiatrists treating her for depression/anxiety – result she became toxic!!
I hv formed a campaign, FOR THE LOVE OF HEIDI – EATING DISORDER EDUCATION CAMPAIGN
I travel to universities, colleges, highschools, and take part in many events, and exhibit her EYES OF THE SOUL art collection and do TV and radio shows providing education and awareness of this devasting disease and I lobby for insurance reform to stop the discriminatory practice by the insurance industry by not providing affordable in-patient treatment, and all of these treatment programs are private and for profit and charge 40-50,000 dollars per month, unaffordable for the majority and devasting for the victims and their familes, another struggle to get help on top of fighting the disease itself.
Heidi’s father saw her frail body (and photograph with barely nothing on exposing her extreme thiness), and his response was (and he is wealthy) “are you trying to make me feel guilty or something?” She wrote, in her many journals, “One thing I don’t understand, is the backlash of my father’s hand”!
He stopped her health insurance he promised to keep for her, one month before she died, this devastated her.
He always played the control and manipulative game, and the money issue was always there.
She stated many times, “he rather pay for my funeral than pay for me to get help and stay alive”, in the end he argued about how much to pay for the casket!!
Her pain became my pain and the lack of respect by her father and older borother who never helped his little sister and he could have, even told me when I asked for helkp with the headstone, “Mom, when you sel her car, you will hv enough money for the headstone” and they left.
That is why Heidi’s voice is now being heard, even Fox News with Jane Skinner came here and interviewed me and used Heidi’s story and the tapes she left behind on their internationally aired documentary on Breaking Poiont” Eating Disorders – The Deadly Secret” that aired late October of 2004
I am sorry your Mother responds the way she does, this must be very hurtful for
you,as was Heidi’s father’s response to her – I understand!
The lack of understanding and the denial of some towards the victim suffering with this disease is n ot uncommon.
The more we can educate and offer awareness and support for the families so that they can be instrumental in the recovery process is an ongoing process, as family support is integral in the treatment and recovery process for the one suffering with anorexia/bulimia. You can google me under sharon haugen eating disorders and go to http://www.eatingdisorderscoalition.org and oull up the Memorial Quilt in DC, and you will see my Heidi’s Square and her in her big red hat.
If I can be of any helkp, pls contact me, and let me know what area you are in and maybe I can set up an exhibit of EYES OF THE SOUL and speaking event at your local college, etc…
God Bless you and Keep you
As ever and always, Heidi’s Mom
Sharon Haugen
FOR THE LOVE OF HEIDI